Day 10 - To Love you

So, to love you. 

That was this chapter's title. Pretty self explanatory right? Simple and not to much thought for this one you would think.

But no, it really isn't. To love you. Well, I do love you, what more needs to be said or done? Believe it or not, a lot. 

As Andy Stanley says and as we have been learning in Sunday School...Make love a verb. It isn't just about falling in love then letting the rest of your relationship slide on that. Not in the least bit. It takes work and commitment. Just like a garden. You can't expect to plant the flowers/vegetables/fruits, water it once and let it be. Yes, they will begin to grow with your starter efforts (just like in the beginning of a relationship), but in order to continue growing you need to keep tending to it. Watering it, deweeding and giving it lots of TLC.

I like to think me and my husband are pretty good at this, but there are times we lose sight of it's importance.

The challenge was to find a special way, an out of the ordinary kind of way, to tell your husband you love him. Write him a note? Send him a text? Make him a card? You choose because you know him best.

I wrote a little blurb on a facebook status he put up and at dinner I placed a smiley face of pepperoni on his plate to make him smile. Unfortunately, due to the stresses we faced my little not so large efforts when somewhat unnoticed. Yes, I was discouraged and then turned to God in Prayer in hopes to feel better. Sometimes I show my love the best by caring...sometimes overcaring. And to my husband it just comes across as me being overbearing or critical, which I try not to do, but sometimes I just can't help it. I hate seeing him stressed or overworked or worried. So I just let him be, and hope to continue these efforts in the future. That is the point right? I don't want my "garden" to go unnoticed or feel unloved. Besides, to love your spouse. That is a daily deal, no matter what. It's just finding the right ways to show that love, keeping in my mind your husbands priorities and God's word.

"This love to which I speak is slow to lose patience-it looks for a way of being constructive.

Love is not possessive.

Love is not anxious to impress nor does it cherish inflated ideas of its own ideas.

Love has good manners and does not pursue selfish advantage.

Love is not touchy.

Love does not keep account of evil or gloat over the wickedness of other people.

On the Contrary, it is glad with all good men when truth prevails. 

Love knows no limits to its endurance,

No end to its trust, no fading of its hope;

It can outlast anything.

It is, in fact, the one thing that stands when all else has fallen" 

- Elisabeth Elliot.

 See? It doesn't always have to be doing a little something extra, but to also practice these values on a daily basis. That alone will show your spouse how much you still love him very much. Don't lose sight of the person you married because your wedding day should be one of the best days of your life. Full of joy and celebration and the reminder of who you married and why you married that person. Even in times of stress and conflict that love can still and always will be present. I promise.

Today's chapter - To Listen the best Way I know how....here is another doozy.

Till next time bloggers and God bless!